I’m sure by now, most of you curlies have had this conversation randomly in public-
Damaged hair girl (DHG): “Ya hair is cuteeee!”
You: “Thank you.”
DHG: “That’s all you? How you get it curly like that? What, you Spanish or somethin’? That’s a texturizer? What type of relaxer do you use?”
You: “I’m natural. My hair just grows like this.”
DHG: “Oh *silence* well that’s good for you, but I just can’t do that.”
You: “Why not?”
DHG: “It doesn’t look right on me. Natural Hair is isn’t for everybody.”
What the heck does that mean? How on earth is the hair that you were born with “not for you?”
To quote a wise sage of our time, Mr. Chris Tucker, in his classic, early 2000’s film- ‘Money Talks,’
“It can’t get no righter.”
Now I get it- I know that people hate the recently converted natural hair girls that go EXTRA hard for their Fro. That’s not me, and that’s not what this is.
I am definitely not on the war path to big chop every relaxed hair girl out there and lead a curly prayer circle around jars of Miss Jessie’s- I really do respect a woman’s right to wear relaxed hair as a style choice but it should never be a mandatory thing- especially when/if you don’t know how to care for your hair in the relaxed style, or its natural state. It’s a recipe for damage, health issues, and increases the potential for ratchet weaves. That doesn’t make anyone happy, right?
That said, I’ve always been perplexed by how often I hear that Natural Hair isn’t for ‘everyone’ from women who I want to push in a pool, just so they can get some moisture on their scalp and have edges that Naomi Campbell would make fun of. I think it may be fair to respond to these ladies with our own set of questions;
1. “Do you love your OWN hair more days than not?”
2. “Do you feel comfortable wearing your hair in public without any weaves or heat alteration?”
3. “Is your hair full, even, and your hairline visible? Would you call your hair healthy? How long do you think you could grow it?”
4. “When was the last time someone stopped you to compliment your hair?”
If you get honest answers, most relaxed ladies can’t say ‘Yes’ to all of these questions- on the other hand, most natural girls (after they’ve gotten their regimen straight- haha) can scream ‘YES’ enthusiastically from the product aisle at the Target (where we all secretly live).
Heck, even my hubbin looks good with Natural Hair:
Haha! One thing I know is- You don’t knock it till you’ve tried it- and I’ve been to ‘Relaxedtown,USA-Population: Too Many’ and it was a bad trip. It’s okay to visit, but I wouldn’t want to live there.
How do you respond to the FroHaters? What crazy comments do you hear?