I’m 14 months into my natural hair journey, and I’m still working on getting used to the new me.
Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE being natural. My hair is healthy, strong, beautiful- and I feel liberated from the world of perms and mandatory weaves. But after wearing weaves for 12+ years, non stop (yikes!), I am still adjusting to seeing the new me- and getting used to being just as glam in my fro, as I was in my long Kim Kardashian weaves.
It is so easy for me to look at the pic above and say, this girl is so much prettier than the girl with the short (albeit sassy) Afro. Part of that is what society tells me (long hair is gorgeous), and part of that is what I’m used too.
All of it is a lie though.
Whenever the thought that I looked prettier in a weave with a relaxer enters my head, I remind myself that weaves and relaxers are an illusion. It’s not the REAL me. When that relaxer starts growing in, and that weave starts looking ratty, I’ll be back to this:
A girl with no edges, damaged hair, and a year away from truly enjoying her natural hair. This is the real me that I faced between every weave, and when I accepted that I could move past this, and be beautiful in my own skin, that’s when I really found the new me:
And she is fab, and only getting better- no additives necessary!
Naturals, what did it take to love the ‘new you?’